Demands on our time can take over our lives. Pause to connect within and live in
the present, says Sri Raj Bhowmik.
Life has become mechanical and in the rush to do our best at work and in personal relationships, we are losing sight of what we really are. We have also forgotten how to focus on the present moment.
We are often haunted by questions, such as “How can I achieve what I want? What is my life’s purpose?” Life is in constant flux and as the moments tick by, the demands on us in our careers and in the family are constantly changing. We find ourselves constantly preparing for the next, new challenge. The demand can get exhausting and we practically operate on auto-pilot.
Don’t Look For Approval
This statement echoes a regular mother’s complaint — “I have to cook for my children, pick and drop them, cater to my husband’s needs and before I know it, it’s time for bed. I don’t have time for myself!” A visit to a beauty parlour or an exotic spa over the weekend offers only a temporary escape. As we rush from one task to the next; we are unconsciously seeking approval from those around us.
What makes us dwell in the past or project into the future are our fears, of losing something or someone, being rejected, not being good enough or being betrayed by people we trust. This creates anxiety and builds a super vigilant state where we unquestioningly submit to or tightly control the environment. These fears stem from the past, but we keep it alive by focusing on the event and reminding ourselves of how bad or good it was.
Get Some Me-Time
We are always with ourselves, but do we ever speak to the ‘me’ the way we do with everyone else? Bymaking time for ourselves for a few minutes during the day, independent of external circumstances, we can slowly relax and get used to our own presence and eventually extend this comfort to others around us. We must learn to enjoy doing things for ourselves. Here’s how to go about it.
Choose a quiet place that you love, perhaps a balcony, and look at objects that make you smile. Then, taking a deep breath, stroke your hands with your palm and reassure yourself, “I am safe in my world. I belong to this environment that I lovingly create. I allow myself to flow in this moment. I am grateful to this moment and life.” Absorb this feeling with gentleness. The point is to feel and believe what you say.
Take a deep breath and be still for a moment. Look at all the things that life has given you. You have received this because you are worth it and have earned it. Acknowledge them today!
Carrying this new energy moment to moment, we learn to respond to a situation, rather than react impulsively. On a regular schedule, this recharge is possible every 45 minutes with five even cycles of deep breathing in an undisturbed space.
Slowly, over a period of time, we begin to appreciate ourselves in our environment. “I” becomes the most important person and the feeling overpowers whatever we do.
Trust Life
This is how to recharge yourself. When we do things that we love, our involvement creates feel-good hormones in sync with the natural body. That is why gardening, playing with children, reading, writing, singing and dancing bring about calmness and refresh the body, mind and environment.
Our life’s purpose slowly evolves. Till the time we are on the highway of life, it is important to notice everything that our eyes can see and feel gently, rather than focus on the endless road. We came because we were needed. Life is the driving force taking us ahead. We just need to trust it.
When we take in something calmly, we respond differently. And as we continue on the journey of life, we can add our own joy to the situation.
Creating a fresh new energy around us regularly that is tapped by breathing and affirming at regular intervals, can change the way we respond to life.
Discovering our purpose is adding value with our feelings that, over a period of time, reveal our uniqueness. When we let go the fears, we are ourselves in the present moment. This needs “you” and “your appreciation” to help you move ahead to the next moment from this beautiful present.
Life has become mechanical and in the rush to do our best at work and in personal relationships, we are losing sight of what we really are. We have also forgotten how to focus on the present moment.
We are often haunted by questions, such as “How can I achieve what I want? What is my life’s purpose?” Life is in constant flux and as the moments tick by, the demands on us in our careers and in the family are constantly changing. We find ourselves constantly preparing for the next, new challenge. The demand can get exhausting and we practically operate on auto-pilot.
Don’t Look For Approval
This statement echoes a regular mother’s complaint — “I have to cook for my children, pick and drop them, cater to my husband’s needs and before I know it, it’s time for bed. I don’t have time for myself!” A visit to a beauty parlour or an exotic spa over the weekend offers only a temporary escape. As we rush from one task to the next; we are unconsciously seeking approval from those around us.
What makes us dwell in the past or project into the future are our fears, of losing something or someone, being rejected, not being good enough or being betrayed by people we trust. This creates anxiety and builds a super vigilant state where we unquestioningly submit to or tightly control the environment. These fears stem from the past, but we keep it alive by focusing on the event and reminding ourselves of how bad or good it was.
Get Some Me-Time
We are always with ourselves, but do we ever speak to the ‘me’ the way we do with everyone else? Bymaking time for ourselves for a few minutes during the day, independent of external circumstances, we can slowly relax and get used to our own presence and eventually extend this comfort to others around us. We must learn to enjoy doing things for ourselves. Here’s how to go about it.
Choose a quiet place that you love, perhaps a balcony, and look at objects that make you smile. Then, taking a deep breath, stroke your hands with your palm and reassure yourself, “I am safe in my world. I belong to this environment that I lovingly create. I allow myself to flow in this moment. I am grateful to this moment and life.” Absorb this feeling with gentleness. The point is to feel and believe what you say.
Take a deep breath and be still for a moment. Look at all the things that life has given you. You have received this because you are worth it and have earned it. Acknowledge them today!
Carrying this new energy moment to moment, we learn to respond to a situation, rather than react impulsively. On a regular schedule, this recharge is possible every 45 minutes with five even cycles of deep breathing in an undisturbed space.
Slowly, over a period of time, we begin to appreciate ourselves in our environment. “I” becomes the most important person and the feeling overpowers whatever we do.
Trust Life
This is how to recharge yourself. When we do things that we love, our involvement creates feel-good hormones in sync with the natural body. That is why gardening, playing with children, reading, writing, singing and dancing bring about calmness and refresh the body, mind and environment.
Our life’s purpose slowly evolves. Till the time we are on the highway of life, it is important to notice everything that our eyes can see and feel gently, rather than focus on the endless road. We came because we were needed. Life is the driving force taking us ahead. We just need to trust it.
When we take in something calmly, we respond differently. And as we continue on the journey of life, we can add our own joy to the situation.
Creating a fresh new energy around us regularly that is tapped by breathing and affirming at regular intervals, can change the way we respond to life.
Discovering our purpose is adding value with our feelings that, over a period of time, reveal our uniqueness. When we let go the fears, we are ourselves in the present moment. This needs “you” and “your appreciation” to help you move ahead to the next moment from this beautiful present.
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